How to lose members and alienate roleplayers

Each admin has their own management techniques and every player has their pet peeves and must have’s when looking for a roleplay. However, there are some things that can be generalised; some things that turn the majority off a forum RPG. From a member’s PoV, here are some key area’s that might lead to losing players and/or alienating them (if they do for some unknown reason choose to stay at your forum).

IN CHARACTER OPPORTUNITIES

This may be something that many admins feel is mostly the player’s responsibility – and they are not entirely wrong there, but I am not referring to members not making an effort, but rather your attitude as an admin when you play IC and how you interact with your members IC. What is a massive turn off and will have then leaving your site in droves (usually after about a month) are;

–   Chopping and changing the main plot: when an admin cannot make up their mind what direction their story is going in it causes apathy and anomie within the community.

–   The admin dropping out of important threads because they “got bored”, “felt annoyed at a player”, “had no time for the thread” but then go and post in ten other topics. Even if the admin has nothing against that particular player or group of players, do they really have any right to complain if their members feel snubbed or slighted, especially when the admin states OOCly that they leave threads abruptly for those idiotic reasons?

–  Ignoring the development of the story in favour of shallow actions and instant pay offs. So, instead of encouraging creativity the admin is selfish and forces their style of play upon the entire membership. In this case a member will quickly become disheartened and distanced from the site, usually fading away into nothingness.

–  Selfish writing: demanding everything is about the admins character. Everything revolves around their story, their goals, their past and their future! Everyone else can come along for the ride but if you go off on a tangent then you get alienated and can’t find an RP buddy no matter how hard you try! In this case one might go to the admin, but when the admin is the perpetrator then the member ends up leaving – especially when the community is already a small one with nowhere to hide…

OOC BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION

This is when the admin tries to force an atmosphere on the membership and ends up with the sound of tumbleweeds in their community instead of the clicking sound of the cbox or the alerts of ten new posts in the last five minutes. This approach tends to be very lazy and very wishy-washy, extremely random and to most intelligent adults – annoying and entirely devoid of personality or meaning. It creates robots with no creativity and no attention span. Well, they do say that God made man in his image – perhaps it is true of admins and their members? Does your membership reflect your personality?

10 ADMIN TRAITS THAT WILL LOSE YOU MEMBERS WITHIN A MONTH

1)      Condescending

2)      Deceptive

3)      Desperate

4)      Elitist

5)      Hypocritical

6)      Indecisive

7)      Overly-sensitive

8)      Passive aggressive

9)      Poor communicator

10)   Selfish

FINAL NAILS IN THE COFFIN – THE DEATH OF A FORUM

  • Never, never, never listen to gossip!

 

  • If you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one.

 

  • Even in the face of facts, if you remain in denial and refuse to listen to advice then you with be left to drown.

 

  • Be careful of projecting your faults onto your members – this is a sure fire way to alienate them.

 

  • Be a judge, do not be judgemental. This ties into listening to gossip, you need facts, not rumours and as soon as you join the rumour mill your community will never recover. You will forever be lost in the web of intrigue you weaved on the looms you built, when you should have been building a strong foundation.

 

  • Flush out toxic members and stamp out your own toxic behaviour.

 

  • Stay in the now and plan for the future. Quit harping back to when you thought things and people were better, because if that were true then where are all the wonderful roleplayers now? Oh yes, they left… Do you see the pattern here?

 

  • Do not nurture a “bad vibe”. When you have a stand-offish, repressive, and suffocating vibe that provokes passive aggression, bullying and underhand, indicting behaviour then people will smell it. And the longer they stay the stronger that bad smell gets… it lingers and it stinks and usually after a month people are running for the door because they need to get out of the room and breathe some fresh air.

 

WAVE GOODBYE TO YOUR MEMBERS, THEY ARE NOT STAYING FOR STINKING CHEESE AND WHINE WHICH LEAVES A BAD TASTE IN THEIR MOUTH!

In conclusion, do the opposite to most of this (because let’s face it, we all make a few of these mistakes, we none of us are perfect!) and you should keep a good core of players that have fun playing at your forum and make you proud to be their administrator.

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